Sober Synthesis

What are personal boundaries and why are they important?

• Personal boundaries are the limits and rules we set for ourselves within relationships. A person with healthy boundaries can say “no” to others when they want to, but they are also comfortable opening themselves up to intimacy and close relationships. 
  • Insecure attachment patterns will interfere with the ability to establish healthy boundaries. Developing/healing insecure attachment neurobiology is an important precursor.

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• Setting healthy boundaries is necessary for emotional and physical self-care and positive relationships.
• Boundaries differ from person to person and are mediated by variations in culture, personality, and social context.
• Many people, especially women, were taught from a young age to prioritize the feelings of others over their own needs. 

How do I establish healthy personal boundaries?

• Requires clear, compassionate communication. 
• Requires consistency.
• Requires accepting discomfort that arises as a result. Note: This is often the hardest step.
  • Modulating our autonomic nervous system arousal is essential.
  • A mindfulness practice can support self awareness clarity and help modulate nervous system arousal. 
  • Maintaining self care basics: restorative sleep, healthy eating, exercise, abstinence from drugs and alcohol, play/recreation.
  • Practicing via role play can significantly enhance learning/neuroplasticity. 

How to Set Healthy Boundaries & Build Positive Relationships (positivepsychology.com)

https://www.hubermanlab.com/episode/dr-allan-schore-how-relationships-shape-your-brain

Proposed questions for thought/sharing:

1. What changes have you made with your personal boundaries and how have those changes supported your recovery/wellness?

2. What are your challenges with personal boundaries? Any ideas for the future?

3. What people in your life can help you develop/practice healthier boundaries?

Disclaimer: This summary is for general informational purposes only and does not constitute the practice of medicine or other professional health care services, including the giving of medical advice, and no doctor/patient relationship is formed.